taking on too much at one time is all-consuming… something i have no time for. i’ve been trying to figure out too much of my life at once, trying to plan, anticipate and resolve every issue that arises and it’s been unfair to me. not only have i tried to figure out everything, i’ve tried to do it based on what other ppl say and think… therefore, on their terms. well guess what. no mas.
goal: less stressin, deal with things on my terms.
in reference to what i was saying, though, i think it’s all about moderation. for instance, i didn’t used to be emotional, then a relationship made me overly emotional, then a subsequent occurrence made me curb that. but i think some emotion is healthy, esp if expressed at appropriate times. you can’t function in extremes— too much, too little. it looks crazy. besides, to do so is just a gross misrepresentation of our complex selves.
as for asking for advice… i think that’s also about moderation. i think it’s easy to get so wrapped up in what other people think that you end up unhappy with your results. people give you advice based on their experiences and their current perceptions. it’s not that their advice is per se wrong; rather, their advice might not be applicable to your situation. it takes a lot of discernment. my rule of thumb is becoming… if you’ve asked for a lot of advice and you still don’t know which way is up, it may be time to stop asking and time to mull it over yourself.
